Parents Out Reach
“What are children being exposed to at school, in the media, or by friends?” or “How are your teenagers reacting when they are exposed to pornography?”
Parents don’t know that their teenagers are watching or addicted to porn, they suspect but don’t want to know, they know that their teenagers are watching porn but don’t know what to do. The worst thing that parents can do is to not want to know that their teenagers are watching porn and do nothing once they find out. Most parents will initially minimize the issue, hoping their sons or daughters are simply "experimenting" and that this potential problem will pass and be long forgotten when their teenagers go to college or get married.
The following presents just a few mind-staggering statistics that have an effect on any parent with children who are preschool to teenager:
- Porn sites get more visitors each month than Netflix, Amazon, and Twitter combined.
- 88.2 percent of pornography contains physical aggression, principally spanking, gagging, and slapping.
- A Google search for "bestiality" generated 2.7 million returns.
- Seven out of ten youths have accidentally come across pornography online.
- 79 percent of unwanted exposure to pornography is taking place in the home; 9 percent occurs at school; 7 percent happens at other/unknown locations; 5 percent takes place at a friend’s home.
- Child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online, and the content is becoming much worse.
- 69 percent of all victims in child abuse images are between the ages of zero and ten years old.
Again, this is just a small percentage of the statistics available to show the tragedy growing around the world. Based on these few simple facts, there is one universal truth that parents cannot ignore; if they do not educate their children about sex, the public will.
With many available methods to raise children and considering them all, parents’ first step to proper sex education is to take ownership of their children and ask, "should we wait to educate our children when they start looking at porn or have sex?" Of course, the answer is NO!
Is any parent willing to risk their children’s lives? Is any parent willing to risk their children’s happiness?
Child Exposure -
Children might encounter porn from classmates who show them one of their fathers’ magazines, DVDs, or Internet sites; most school-age children and adolescents are spending time online for homework or entertainment reasons. Just a few of the electronic sources are computer, phone, IPAD, and games—at least one of these devices is available in almost every home. Unfortunately, having access to these devices, many teens are susceptible to developing addictions or compulsions to these digital porn images. Today, Internet pornography is the fast ramp to sex addiction and when children's minds are still in the process of developing to maturity, a sex addiction can happen quicker than parents would like to consider. The problems of teenage pornography and sex addiction are real, devastating, and increasing. Most parents don't know where to begin to get their children the help they need. Keep in mind, pornography problems are not gender, status, affluent, or age specific; both religious and nonreligious people are addicted. In addition, it is important to realize that bad things happen to good families as well.
Parents are often prone, when it involves their children, to making light of what they know or suspect to be the truth. They also need to realize that their teenagers will most likely resist or deny the truth. Most addicts will deny their struggle, shift the blame, and/or become verbally aggressive; others may admit their problem immediately, promising they will never do it again. Getting caught is not a precursor to changing the heart.
When a teenager admits to or is caught watching porn, the parents’ first reaction is to find blame in the family. Why find fault, other than to find the source and to be proactive and positive in finding the best possible direction to help the teen to stop? This does not mean that people should not take responsibility; this simply means that parents need to take positive ownership to find a loving, compassionate solution. For example, parents need to ask if they have provided the following:
- Comprehensive biblical sex education
- Understanding of the adverse effects
- Monitoring of types and amounts of media
These are just a few topics that should encourage discussion in the home concerning children’s healthy sex education.
Authoritarian demands and corporal punishment (not recommended) are not likely to encourage children to share their struggles; on the contrary, it will most likely be the opposite. Compassionate love and understanding, such as Jesus demonstrated, are more likely to assist children to feel safe enough to tell the whole story.
Break the chains that hold your family captive
Don’t let Satan have a foothold in your life. Don’t waste precious time thinking that pornography will not be a problem in your family. It is not a matter of if but when your children will be exposed to pornography. As parents you can submit your statement today pledging not to let pornography become a problem in your family and freeing your teenagers from the porn that holds them hostage.
Jesus Christ is the answer—Just Do It. TAKE that first step and submit your freedom statement!
PRAYER REQUESTS - Everything by PRAYER and supplication let your requests be known to GOD - Philippians 4:6
FREEDOM STATEMENT - Allow GOD to BREAK the yoke from your neck and TEAR your shackles away. - Nahum 1:13